Feminism vs. MRM vs. Egalitarianism

Gender Rights Over The Years

Gender Rights Over The Years

This chart is not meant to be historically accurate or scientific. Rather it’s meant to illustrate the different social movements (feminism and MRM. And yes its missing LGBT activism) that have been gaining momentum and “vocal share” over the past century and more. We start by benchmarking the rights that men had in the early 90s as the egalitarian standard.


If you look at the chart above, you’ll notice that even in the early 1900s women’s rights were disproportionate to those enjoyed by males. For example The Nineteenth Amendment, which guarantees equal voting rights regardless of sex, was ratified only on Aug 18, 1920.

For a view on why women weren’t offered suffrage before, see this video by GirlWritesWhat

Here is what she had to say

From the website “great war fiction”, regarding Britain’s white feather campaign…‘In other words, the white feather girls and the suffragettes understood that men had political franchise and women did not because men had a duty to go to war, and protect women.’”

Feminism started as a movement to secure equal rights for women.

Radical Feminism

With time, however, fringe factions that advocated misandry (both subtly and in plain sight) hijacked the feminism conversation. It ceased to be about securing equal rights for women but rather about male hatred masked by half chewed ideas masquerading under pseudo-scientific terms like “patriarchy”, “rape culture” and my personal favorite “male privilege”. The movement became all about “paying back” the men for years of “repression”.


Over the course of time, some started to see through the pseudo-intellectual smog that radical feminists started to push. The result was members of both sexes advocating for a return to the times of old, wrapped under the premise that we all have different roles to play. The only problem with traditionalism, however, is that this boat has long since sailed and unless some unprecedented humanitarian disaster occurs that forces a radical altering of our social course, this is nothing more than a pipe dream.

 Male Rights Movement (MRM)

From the emasculation of men in media for decades (even more acutely after the 2000s), the heavily skewed family court laws, domestic violence laws, rape culture propaganda, educational and economic setbacks due to a combination of various factors and in no small part due to protectionist ideologies, males have found themselves holding the shorter end of the stick. This gave rise to the movement advocating for equal rights of men – The Male Rights Movement or The Male Rights Activism.

Some would like to believe that the purpose of the MRM is similar to that of traditionalists hell-bent on bringing the world back to the 1950s. The truth couldn’t be further.


However Utopian this might sound to some, securing equal rights for all groups is the purpose of the egalitarian movement. Unlike specific movements designed to secure rights for the groups they are designed for (which in essence is also its biggest flaw), egalitarianism is an all-inclusive movement.

Egalitarianism vs. Feminism vs. MRM

Egalitarianism vs. Feminism vs. MRM

Why is the egalitarianism circle slightly larger with more intersection area? Egalitarianism, for example, doesn’t hold the view that parenting decisions should be the sole right of one of the sexes. It transcends the feminist and MRM movements to include other marginalized sections of the society including the LGBT community, the transgender community and other communities that may arise in the generations to follow.


Members of both feminism and MRM contend that the while the ultimate destination could be an egalitarian society, its time to focus solely on the needs of their groups. To highlight the danger of this narrow view, I would like to put forth something I heard recently while watching the movie Lincoln

A compass will point you true north. But it won’t show you the swamps between you and there. If you don’t avoid the swamps, what’s the use of knowing true north?

Most activists in either camp recognize that the ultimate direction (true north) will take them to an egalitarian state. But in the interest of winning those “low hanging fruit”, they chose to overlook that advancing their own causes, through the reasoning of priority, takes them directly into the swamps and ravines.


God gets 10% and you get fired

Did you read about the St. Louis pastor Alois Bell who followed WWJD (What Would Jesus Do) to the letter by stiffing Applebee’s waiter his/her tips? When a picture of her eloquently stated reason

I give God 10%. Why do you get 18?

ended up on Reddit, albeit with identifiable information, and went viral, she later had an epiphany and decided it was an act that “brought embarrassment to her church and ministry

And while she had this apparent change of heart, she also had the “presence of mind” and “forgiving nature” to place a call to the restaurant location and call for the immediate firing of all staff. Yep, that’s right! All staff! As a result of her selfless actions, the waitress Chelsea who took the picture and posted it online got fired. Oh by the way, Pastor Alois Bell is a mother of three. Great example for the kids!

Dear Alois Bell, thanks for giving Christians all over the world a bad name.

While the Internet sleuths and regular Joes/Janes are raging about the unfairness of the whole ordeal, most of America and the rest of the world are saying

“In the midst of all this you had the time to make a call to get everyone fired?”

Ain't Nobody Got Time Fo That

Ain’t Nobody Got Time Fo Dat!

India’s New Time Pass Is Rape

Recently the nation of India was in the news for all the wrong reasons. Apparently men in India are fond of raping women. In India, a rape occurs every 18-20 minutes. I recently read that Delhi, the nation’s capital, was affectionately called “Rape Capital” by the media. In the last 2 weeks of December 2012 many folks took to the streets to protest a brutal incident where a student was gang raped by 6 freaks on a bus. Tragically, the girl succumbed to her injuries.

You see, this isn’t the first brutal rape to happen in India and without change it won’t be the last. Even while protests were going on, there were multiple incidents reported in various other parts of India. The response to the whole incident and what is undoubtedly a social, cultural and national epidemic was unsurprising and comical at best.

First, the government decided it was going to honor the status quo and took a vow of silence. When anger grew even further some ministers decided they would switch tactics and started the blame game. Some even said the government had to be sensitive/neutral and therefore abstain from addressing the protests. As negative feedback grew all fingers suddenly pointed towards the state police. As if all of this wasn’t comical enough, the media focus frenzy was where the true gold could be found.

If you have ever tried watching a news segment on Indian TV you’ll notice that you can’t hear a goddamn thing as everyone is intent on yelling and more importantly talking all at once. Coz God forbid someone can actually hear what you have to say! “Pundits” and “gurus” came out of the woodwork to offer their take on the “issue” and a plethora of rhetoric followed. All that could be heard was “We have to ask the hard questions”, “Time for introspection” etc. Seriously? People wanted to see change and in true form, the suggested action was “thinking of what action needed to be taken” (half a decade after everyone knew this was a problem)

Here are the some of the fascinating suggestions on short/long-term actions  (as stated by the nation’s citizen on national TV)

  1. Stay indoors
  2. Ban skirts
  3. Stricter laws (as India’s reputation on upholding laws are stellar)
  4. Ban porn sites in India (this was the funniest one. A “liberal arts” student was on national TV advocating this. I’m sure she had tons of data to support her theory about its effectiveness. I am also quite certain she knew all about how proxy servers and VPN worked)
  5. Hiring more women police (as India’s history on workplace harassment is just amazing)
  6. Further segregation between boys/girls and men/women (as it has proven effective for the past 60 years!)

If THIS is the kind of mind-blowing, forward thinking ideas that the nation could come up with, it’s no wonder we are still stuck in this unfortunate rut. I think what is even more sad is that the true intellectuals were drowned out, or they just plainly refused to say what they had it mind coz why bother?

If there is one thing Indians love, it’s status quo and rest assured this won’t be the last we hear of India’s rape epidemic.

We Have Fallen

All Your Base Image


Seems to me that we [humans] have no qualms surrendering all or part of lives to corporations. We gladly hand over our keys to greed, hoping that once money is out of the equation, there might be some respite to it all. And, unfortunately, that respite will never come.

We handed over the keys under a deluge of information and a quest for vanity. In good ol literature they wrote about the craziness people went through to find the fountain of youth. We have Facebook, Instagram, Google+ and a host of other social media sites positioned as tools to help us stay closer to one another (and truly there are the very few that use it for that). But most of us are happy posting news of the fantastic night we shared with our pet while watching reruns of Dancing With The Stars.

Vanity is my favorite sin

Greater words have not been spoken, that ring true about this generation. And truth be told, I do not stand on the sidelines wagging fingers. However, with all the recent changes in Terms of Services [Instagram, December 2012], and the very few people who are driven to action even when they are told their information will be sold to the highest bidder must lead you to wonder. Is this truly the beginning of the end….or are we there already!

Beware of Signature Gatherers

I hate signature gatherers. Can’t even walk down the street for lunch without someone pestering me for a signature to save Grumpy Cat. Here I am trying to enjoy my 60 minutes of freedom at lunch and what do I have to walk straight into? Signature Gatherers with their fluorescent jackets occupying the sidewalks waiting to pounce on everyone that goes by.

With more people ignoring them, however, these folks have gotten more aggressive and sneaky. Ever dealt with the guy who walks towards you with his/her palm out expecting a handshake? What’s up with that. I don’t know you. I don’t know where your paws have been. Get away from me! Then there is the “Hey, what’s you name” ice-breaker tactic. Tough luck sweetie. I don’t even talk to my mom and she’s related! What makes you think I’m going to take time out of my limited lunch break to talk to you about saving the penguins up in the North Pole (everyone knows there are no penguins in the North Pole).

Look, maybe it’s the economy. But times are tough. I don’t have time to worry about the balance of nature, saving the dolphins, equal rights for pets. Who gives a shit. I’m having a hard time trying to get my voice heard on things that actually matter to humans – like the plan to defund Planned Parenthood, Legalize Pot, Equal Marriage Rights, Raise the Minimum Wage and the freaking Fiscal Cliff. Animals are just not high on my priority list right now.

For God’s sake, can’t you see I’m desperately waiting to cross the street just to avoid you? Can’t you see me looking down and avoiding looking even in your general vicinity? Can’t you see my emotions change from blank to “I’m gonna knock you out if you take another step? And why the devil do you insist on occupying the entrance of every joint in the neighborhood that means a damn to me? It’s not like there are other ways to enter, so step aside b***h. No I’m not gonna donate blood. You know why? Coz you annoy the crap out of me. I’m a  nice guy and I like to help but maybe, just maybe, you’ll have better luck if you don’t try to piss me off before I can give your cause a chance.

Brats In Ads

I happened to see this ad on TV for a milk product (barely remember the name of the product). They had a bunch of kids – of course a healthy mix of boys and girls just to reach across the demographics – jumping into the air, all smiles like Justin Bieber was throwing a personal fucking concert. In another ad, a girl in a karate outfit was sitting with 15 plates of food in front of her and was excitedly screaming out the names of each of the foods. For crying out loud. Get a grip girl. I hate kids, especially the kids in these ads. They probably go to school bragging about how they are on national TV. Their parents thinking this is their ticket to stardom, feeding them with insane idea and setting the expectations so high for inevitable failure. Great work parents.

99% of ads every year are stupid. The kids who star in them are stupid. The parents who consent to this atrocity are stupid. The folks that direct these god forsaken abominations they call ads are stupid. Then again, we all know most of the world is now filled with Stupids.

Sensitive India Inc

Maybe it’s not the whole country just yet, but in the aftermath of the 2008 terror attacks, Mumbai has become a very sensitive city. Did you hear about the one where that Indian girl and her friend were arrested over a Facebook post? Now put aside the fact that the post was neither offensive nor hateful for a moment. Mumbai is a city with a population of 12.4 million people. How in God’s name did this one post from an obscure citizen end up reaching the powers that be, that ended up getting her arrested? Is India watching its citizens like its neighbors?

Experts now claim that the police messed up in the arrest process as, by law, they aren’t allowed to arrest women between dusk and dawn except under “exceptional circumstances”. Really? If we are going to treat women equally as men, I say let everyone get arrested based on the seriousness of their crimes rather than gender. But i digress.

Now the cops arrested them based on a couple of charges, but later withdrew those charges and  booked them under different ones. How can you do that post arrest? Shouldn’t you have a valid reason to arrest folks in the first place? And if that turns out to be wrong, seems to me like they should be allowed to go free at least for now. You shouldn’t be able to shift charges at will. Seems pretty ridiculous.

Then there is the question of the formal charges filed. The girls were charged under Section 505(2) of the Indian Penal Code which

pertains to statements which create or promote enmity, hatred or ill-will between classes

Classes? I think its safe to assume that this isn’t the middle class  / rich we are talking about here. If the Penal Code still has laws that protects the class system, how is India ever supposed to get to a place where everyone is treated equally with no bias based on what they were born into?

At the end of the day. what are the lessons learnt? If you are on Facebook or Twitter, do not make your posts public. If you do make your posts public, stay away from politics and religion. With all the umbrella-laws in place to curb your freedom, better safe than sorry.